Priorities, Motivation and Wishful Thinking

Some people have opined that Americans are lazy. Is it laziness or simply prioritization of our time?

In my life there are ‘have-to’s, things that have to be done, most likely now or very soon. On a second level there are the ‘need-tos’, things of a lower priority that could wait until later but yet still at some point must be accomplished. And then finally there are the ‘want to’s, things that I want to do, often these are lower on my priority list because there are too many of the others. action-expresses-priorities[1]

Whenever I teach a new student I always ask the simple question(s), what is your interest in guns, why do you want a CCW permit? I’m really more interested in what motivates them, if anything other than ‘want to’ and this is going to give me a lot of insight into how well that student will do. Almost all start with the standard answer, self-defense, yet when I dig further most have nothing more than they think it is wise to be armed, never having considered what the consequences are.

Fear is an awesome motivator, it is an emotion and often is not based in reality. With self-defense, emotions will almost always let you down and when they rear up they can literally land you in trouble. Motivation[1]

I carry a gun much like I wear a seat belt. I’m not a bad driver but I realize that there are some very dangerous people out there that I could come across and I know the seat belt could save my life. With the gun, I’m not a bad person, I don’t go to places where I am exposed to those types but guess what, there are a lot of them and there is a chance I might come across one. Putting that gun on EVERY day is a must-do, just like putting on the seat belt. If you’re going to wear a seat belt might as well make it a good one. Bucket_seat_with_Schroth_six-point_harness_in_a_2010_Porsche_997_GT3_RS_3.8[1]

When I was learning how to drive I was tentative, took my time even though I was young and to some degree reckless. As I got more time behind the wheel I became more comfortable and my skill set improved the more I did it correctly. I was actually learning how to drive a deadly weapon on the public streets with innocent people all around me.

Today I am still learning to drive my gun. I drive it a few minutes every day, I am very comfortable with it, meaning I seldom have to look at it during manipulations, I know it inside and out. I know what it takes to drive it safely and I am getting pretty good at driving it fast which is quite exhilarating. It has become a have-to need-to want-to kind of thing and for the most part takes priority over many other things in my life. johnnysummers2[1]

Someone asked if I felt safer carrying a gun. I responded with the question asking them if they felt safer wearing a seatbelt. Of course they could not answer that question because their intent was political, not to discover answers. I don’t feel safer; I feel secure knowing that should I run into a bad actor I have a good chance of surviving that encounter should I not be able to avoid it.

The reality of this, what makes me dry practice every day, do focused and measured live practice and measure my success with increasingly difficult drills. I don’t do it necessarily for me, I do it for those I love. I imagine and visualize what could happen to my loved one should I fail to perform if needed. That is my motivation. I have to admit, I don’t like dry practice yet I do it every day as I know without it I will NEVER rise to the next level of proficiency . . . and mediocre is not something I’ve ever hoped to accomplish. Mediocrity Green Road Sign with Dramatic Clouds, Sun Rays and Sky.

As instructors we see all sorts of people. The majority of our students come to us because they are seeking the best training they can find. They want to learn to drive safely, some want to learn to drive fast and those are the ones who put in the effort, they turn their training and practice into a Have-To in their lives. They do not embrace wishful thinking, they do not believe that since they carry a gun they will be fine, they do not dismiss the need for continued training and focused practice.

As I’ve said before, we have the best students ever, they have their priorities set, they are motivated by logic and reason and understanding of reality and probably the only thing they wish for would be a few extra hours each day to accomplish more. Yes, we are lucky. DSC00234

Failing to train IS training to fail.
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